Sexual Behavior In Marriage

Sexual Behavior refers to defined sexual Intercourse actions. Sex as a sexual behavior is an array of activities that are classified as sexual behavior. Common sexual behavior practices include masturbation, oral sex, vaginal and anal insertion, romance, sexual dancing are all examples of sexual behaviors.

People engage in different kinds of sexual behavior but some prefer one to another. This article tends to expose how sexual behavior affects our mental health.

Common sexual behavior in marriage that are acceptable include; romance and sexual intercourse.

Sexual behavior in marriage goes beyond sexual intercourse which is a simple act of a man inserting his penis into a woman’s vagina. Sexual behavior is the response to the response to sexual feeling.

THE MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SEXUAL BEHAVIOUR

There are diverse misconceptions about sexual behavior which includes;

Frequency Equal Satisfaction

It has being a huge misconception that frequency in sexual intercourse equals satisfaction. Invariably one is suggesting  that quantity is better than quality but this is not proven to be true.

Pornography As A Solution To Sexual Problems

Some people believe watching pornography will help in addressing sexual anxiety and achieve sexual satisfaction but this is totally wrong. Partners should not use pornography to address sexual problems in marriage. It should not be a remedy to solve a sexual problem in marriage. Partners should not be intentional about using it to solve sexual problems because it would lead to other problems. It can lead to sexual addiction and further lead to partner disappointment

Sexual problems which can lead to marital dysfunction, health challenges should be analyzed with an holistic approach.

There are three strong factors that play important roles In fostering Sexual Behaviors In Marriage.

1. Communication

Communication and good sex rank as number one in maintaining healthy sexual behavior in marriage. One major thing people do in marriage is sexual interaction in different forms. Couples need to communicate their sexual needs and how they want to be felt. Interaction is procreation. Communication as regards sexual behavior in marriage should be of good quality. Couples can joke, communicate about the way they want to be felt and touched. There should be a well established healthy and good sexual interaction and every one’s expectation should be met.

Some couples don’t really have or make expectations regarding sex in marriage. They don’t tend to open up in the sexual area of marriage. If communication is well done in marriage such as romance, rate of loving sex, ability to express each others need, then there will be a reduced level of problems in the marriage and a high rate of fidelity and companionship which results in marital bliss.

In marriage, communication is very key when it relates to healthy sexual relationship. Communicate your needs, desires and feelings (assertiveness). Failure to communicate will have your partner ignorant about what you really want. Communication moderates the outcome of sexual behavior in marriage.

2. Good Finances

Some couples believe in the saying “there is no romance without finance”, which simply means proclaiming love is not enough to keep a marriage. Couples must have and manage their financial muscle to enjoy a long lasting marriage.

3. Good Sex

Every one has a personal interpretation as to what sex should be like. Some view sex as an emotional connection, some see it as intimacy in marriage while some engage in it as a survival technique. Sexual satisfaction means that individuals involved in the sexual act are emotionally and physically fulfilled and satisfied. Research has proven that couples should have sex at least once in a week, how true is this?

There are some key factors that can contribute to sexual problems in marriage.

1. Stress
2.Infertility
3.Medical Issues

In sexual satisfaction it is possible that one person sees it as a work while the other person sees it as pleasure and this is dependent on a number of factors;

1. Connection: Both persons have to be connected emotionally and it is something to be done regularly. They should be able to know how to explore and also know how each person enjoys sex.

2. Desire: Without desire there cannot be sexual satisfaction.

3. Disconnectedness: This is when couples lack connection.

4. Conscious Efforts: Sex is a mind thing therefore your mind should be in it. It is a physical and soulful thing, both have to be present.

What part in the body is responsible for regular sexual behavior? The hypothalamus in the brain is responsible.

Sexual problems is a fragment of major problems in marriage.

Solving Sexual Problems In Marriage

1. Compromise

Ability to see your partner as an imperfect person. That way you understand him or her more which brings about compromise and negotiations.

2.Focus on Quality over Quantity.

3. Seek Professional Support

If the sexual problem in marriage comes from one person, see it as a unified problem and seek professional support. The husband and wife are both of you in marriage.

4. Communication

This determines sexual behavior in marriage. The communication should be open, an activity of active listening and action.

5. Mutual Understanding

Knowingly not everyone is perfect, therefore couples should have enough healthy orientation and conversation about sex and have a plan and agreement. They could agree to have sex once in a week or more than once in a week and still experience marital bliss.

6. Sexual Compromise

The personality of your partner not having enough sexual power should be compromised. Having sex ten times in a week in marriage does not bring about sexual satisfaction because it is about sexual equality and joint emotions.

Anyone having sexual problems should serve as a support system to the other and see a therapist together. It is not only sex that brings happiness, other things such as setting and achieving goals can bring more happiness. Couples should try as much as possible to identify shared values and goals.

Striking a balance between your sex life and goals is paramount for a having a healthy sexual behavior in marriage. Some people deny their partners sex when they lack financial strength but it should not be so. Every behaviour has its consequences.

Adedeji Odusanya

Odusanya Adedeji A., is a Licensed & Certified Clinical Psychologist whose domain of expertise cuts across management of specific mental health issues such as, Depression, PTSD, Anxiety & Anxiety related disorders, Substance Use Disorder, etc

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